I want to be considered important only by those who matter.

There are two ways to detail the desire to be thought of as important.

A: Desire to be considered important by an unspecified number of people.

B: Desire to be considered important by important people.

Only to those who matter."

Whether or not there is a gender difference in modern Japan, let's put it aside.

In an environment where one boss monkey had dozens of female monkeys

Male monkeys want to be the "boss monkey" that everyone thinks is important.

Female monkeys want attention from important "boss monkeys".

I think there was a gender difference that

relevance

I want to be noticed.

Desire to be perceived as a larger-than-life figure.

The desire to be perceived by others as a significant person.

Desire to be told I'm great

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